Complicating things further are factors that are unique to each individual that can have an enormous impact on how well you cope with the loss, such as:
- How sudden and unexpected the loss is.
- Your level of attachment to who or what you have lost.
- Society’s reaction to your loss (disgust, disapproval, ignoring).
- Your previous experiences dealing with loss.
- The level of support and guidance to aid you during the process.
- How burdened you are organizing a response such as a funeral that gets in the way of your own grieving.
- Your ability to cope with intense emotional experiences.
Some signs of getting stuck in the grieving process are:
- You or a loved one are still denying or minimizing the impact of the loss.
- The intensity of your grief is making it hard to function weeks after the event.
- You are functioning but the pain does not seem to diminish with the passage of time.
- Your grief has resurfaced previous losses that still seem raw and unresolved.
- Your emotional reaction to the loss seems to be oddly absent or minimal.
- Reminders of the loss seem to knock you back to square one.
- You don’t know how to adjust to the “holes” in your life caused by the loss.
As a specialist in helping people cope more effectively with grief, whether the loss of a loved one, pets, careers, health, dreams, etc. I would love to help you through your journey of grief to not just survive, but thrive.